May 6, 2012
The courtship period is a time to make discoveries about the person you hope to marry. It is crucial during this period that you ascertain whether you are compatible with the person spiritually, emotionally, intellectually and socially.
Ade gave his life to Christ as a teenager in secondary school. He was regular at all fellowship meetings in school and imbibed the teachings of their Chaplain, which bordered on values such as integrity and abstinence from sex before marriage. A naturally bright young man, Ade never cheated in exams and neither was he really interested in ladies. He remained a virgin throughout his secondary school days.
When he gained admission into the university, Ade found that it was a different story entirely where ladies were concerned. He found himself attracted to ladies and being a young man with a good mix of intelligence, decent looks, courtesy and a sense of humour, ladies were drawn to him. He had more than his fair share of female friends and temptations began to arise.
In one instance, he met a lady, during a semester break, with whom he became friendly. The friendlier they became, the more attractive he found her and it soon became obvious to him that the attraction was mutual.
However, he became uncomfortable with his feelings for the lady as he Read the rest of this entry »
March 6, 2012
When a man desires a woman, he would give anything and say anything to make her give her body to him. Sometimes innocent ladies and even guys don’t know what is going on when members of the opposite sex, especially those they hold in high regard, approach them with lies.
One cannot afford to be ignorant of some of the sly approaches that men and women alike, use to lure others into pre-marital sex. Beneath are a few of these approaches and the right response to them.
The “Love” Approach: This is about the most common of the approaches. Here the guy or the lady equates sex with love and says, “If you love me, you will have sex with me”. The attempt here is to make the other party feel bad about not yielding to sexual pressure. The right response to this is to say, “If you love me you will Read the rest of this entry »
February 6, 2012
Sometimes, we take decisions that are far-reaching and could have detrimental effects on our lives as well as the lives of those whom we say we love. Many people, who have experienced emotional wounds and are in pain, have had those wounds inflicted by their “loved ones”. Much harm has been done all in the name of love.
My wife, Nike, lost her mother when she was ten years old. Nike was the youngest child and the only daughter of her parents. My father-in-law who was in his early thirties when his wife died never remarried; he poured all his energy and love into his children. He treated all his children equally but everybody knew Nike was the apple of his eyes.
I met Nike when we were both in university in England. I really liked Nike and thankfully, Read the rest of this entry »
December 16, 2011
It is not uncommon in this part of the world for relatives to pressure men into taking second wives when the current wife is having problems getting pregnant. Understandably, they do this out of concern and desire to help the situation, but infidelity (adultery) never solves a problem; sin can never produce life, it leads to death.
The room for a second wife does not exist in the plan of God for any man; otherwise he would have made two or more Eves for Adam. Not even the excuse of childlessness should make any man take such a step. In creating the institution of marriage, God said “It is not good that man be alone, I will make a helper comparable to him” (Gen 2:18). The first and, most important reason for marriage is to provide through life; it goes beyond having children, though this is good and desirable.
When a couple get married and it seems that they are unable Read the rest of this entry »